Today’s one of those days. When I awake, too slowly, thinking about my mom; when I know I’m not going to get much done, and will continue to think about my mom throughout December 3.
Today’s one of those days. When time feels out of rhythm; when calendar time is disorienting, and it’s hard to grasp the distance/closeness of the two months of my mom’s death, on October 3.
Today is one of those days when all that my mom was and all that she couldn’t be, when all the abuses etched onto her body as a child-teen-young women and all her ability to nearly always see goodness in people, stand starkly side by side — a testament to strength mixing with fear and trauma to generate the joy, however precariously approximate, that she choose to embody in her being and giving.
Today, nothing will happen. I sit an extended shiva with myself, pondering mitzvahs and love.
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(Photo of my mom on her honeymoon with my dad.)